By now just about every one should know I'm a single mother. My daughter will be three in December. My daughters father and I had every intention of getting married. We just had to keep putting it off as our bills and Hannah were our first priority. Through out our relationship my ex's true idenity came out. Definatly wasn't someone I wanted to spend my life with or raise my daughter with. I won't go into detail about all that drama.
Because my ex and I weren't married we had to go to child support agency to determine paternity of Hannah and if he should be paying child suport. Well Hannahs dad and I were on good terms, living together and still talking of getting married. So when the child suport agency rep. asked if we wanted shared placement if we split up. Not thinking we would split up we both agreed.
Had I known that moment in time was going to mess with my life now, I would've never agreed to it. Because we have shared placement, child suport says that her father would only have to pay $55 a month. But they aren't going to make him pay at this time.
Even if he were helping take care of her both physcially and monetarily it would still come out to more than $55 a month. What with child care which is $110 all in its self a week, pull ups, food, toilet paper, soap, shampoo, clothes and shoes, rent and utilities, there is no way $55 dollars would cover even a small fraction of it.
In order to get child support changed, I, having limited resouces as it is now has to pay to get the paper work and pay a filing fee. And if i really wanted to make sure it was done right I would have to pay for a lawyer.
I learned they changed child support laws, that in my opinion protects dead beat parents and makes it harder for the parent taking care of the child to take care of the child and make ends meet.
Sunday, October 30, 2011
Sunday, October 23, 2011
Pit bulls
While making lunch on Saturday afternoon my friend Jesse and my daughter Hannah were looking out our kitchen window at all the leaves and were talking about going outside after lunch to play in those leaves. My neighbor had her family over which includes a small Pomeranian. They were all outside on my neighbors porch with the pomeranian wandering right around the porch. Just as Hannah comments on the "puppy" being outside, a Pit Bull comes out of no where and attacks the Pomeranian. My neighbors were yelling and trying to get the pit bull off their dog for a few minutes. Finally the owner of the Pit bull comes walking over and just as the pit bull goes to lunge at the poor Pomeranian his owner was able to distract him and get him away from every one.
I left Jesse and Hannah in the house, to check to make sure every one was ok. My neighbors think the Pomeranian is ok. They weren't sure what they should do next. I suggested calling the cops to let them know the pit bull shouldn't be trusted. My neighbors told me not to call the cops as they thought the pit bulls owner is part of a gang. I told them don't worry I'm not afraid to contact the police.
So I went back to my apartment to call the police. It took me a few minutes to find the correct non- emergency number. As I was on the phone with them I watched the owner of the pit bull and his friends with the Pit bull. As i was on the phone with the dispatcher the "gang memeber" pit bull owner proceeds to kick the dog as its just sitting there doing nothing!!
I know there is big debates as to what should be done with this kind of breed of dog. Whether to have more strict laws about insurance and if allowing them in the city. Nov I haven't had much of an opinion about this until the last year or so. So far in my experience I have seen a total of three pit bulls attack other smaller dogs. Two of the three I have known personally and they were the nicest most loving dogs. They acted just as my moms chocolate lab does towards all people and even other dogs. With this happening this weekend in front of my eyes and with the two year old in the paper that was attacked by a pit bull. I truely believe the pit bull breed shouldn't be in family oriented areas nor with young children in the house. I understand all dogs can snap at some point but Pit bulls are and have been breed for guard dogs and hunting.
They are more likely to snap than most other breeds. I also read some where(not sure exactly where but it had to have been a newspaper as that usually where i read things) that pit bulls are also more likely used in gangs for retaluation(sorry on the spelling) and fighting. Which if that is true I now have to be extremely cautious any time i leave or come home, not knowing if that dog is roaming my neighborhood looking to attack some thing. I dont think any family should have to be that cautious. Kids love to play outside and run around. They shouldnt have to live in fear.
Oh to finish the story the owner of the pit bull had left before the police had come, but once the police had come and gone my neighbor came over to say thanks for calling them. My neighbor and her family were afraid to call the cops due to the pit bulls owners possibly being gang memembers and that they would cause problems for her since shes older and living on her own. We both concluded that we would look out for each other in that aspect. I dont know if the cops know who owns the pit bull but i know if i see it or its owners around here anymore i will immediatly call the police and my land lord will be notified about the situation.
I left Jesse and Hannah in the house, to check to make sure every one was ok. My neighbors think the Pomeranian is ok. They weren't sure what they should do next. I suggested calling the cops to let them know the pit bull shouldn't be trusted. My neighbors told me not to call the cops as they thought the pit bulls owner is part of a gang. I told them don't worry I'm not afraid to contact the police.
So I went back to my apartment to call the police. It took me a few minutes to find the correct non- emergency number. As I was on the phone with them I watched the owner of the pit bull and his friends with the Pit bull. As i was on the phone with the dispatcher the "gang memeber" pit bull owner proceeds to kick the dog as its just sitting there doing nothing!!
I know there is big debates as to what should be done with this kind of breed of dog. Whether to have more strict laws about insurance and if allowing them in the city. Nov I haven't had much of an opinion about this until the last year or so. So far in my experience I have seen a total of three pit bulls attack other smaller dogs. Two of the three I have known personally and they were the nicest most loving dogs. They acted just as my moms chocolate lab does towards all people and even other dogs. With this happening this weekend in front of my eyes and with the two year old in the paper that was attacked by a pit bull. I truely believe the pit bull breed shouldn't be in family oriented areas nor with young children in the house. I understand all dogs can snap at some point but Pit bulls are and have been breed for guard dogs and hunting.
They are more likely to snap than most other breeds. I also read some where(not sure exactly where but it had to have been a newspaper as that usually where i read things) that pit bulls are also more likely used in gangs for retaluation(sorry on the spelling) and fighting. Which if that is true I now have to be extremely cautious any time i leave or come home, not knowing if that dog is roaming my neighborhood looking to attack some thing. I dont think any family should have to be that cautious. Kids love to play outside and run around. They shouldnt have to live in fear.
Oh to finish the story the owner of the pit bull had left before the police had come, but once the police had come and gone my neighbor came over to say thanks for calling them. My neighbor and her family were afraid to call the cops due to the pit bulls owners possibly being gang memembers and that they would cause problems for her since shes older and living on her own. We both concluded that we would look out for each other in that aspect. I dont know if the cops know who owns the pit bull but i know if i see it or its owners around here anymore i will immediatly call the police and my land lord will be notified about the situation.
Sunday, October 9, 2011
Pumpkin Farm
Took my daughter to the pumpkin farm this weekend. She loved it! I think she enjoyed the farm animals more than picking out pumpkins. The farm has hay rides, pigs and piglets, cows, horses, pony's, ducks, chickens,goats, donkeys, peacocks and all kinds of decorations! Bulitz pumpkin farm even has a concession stand.
You can even feed the goats and pigs. Watching my daughter light up at the site of a goats tounge licking her hand is one of the greatest sights I've seen. Hannah was skiping around and singing to the animals. She even stepped in animal waste and laughed! Usually when her clothes or shoes get dirty she starts to cry like its the end of the world.
We tried getting her on the pony rides but she wouldnt get on, she only wanted to pet them if mommmy was petting them. But we kept going back to pet and see the horses and ponys. I have to say I think the ponies and horses were Hannahs favorite part of going to the pumpkin farm.
I'm glad we had the oppertunity to go when it was warm and get to spend time laughing. Its not often with busy lives that we can stop and "smell the roses" so to speak, and i have to say that i love stopping to smell the roses with Hannah as she is the light of my darkness.
You can even feed the goats and pigs. Watching my daughter light up at the site of a goats tounge licking her hand is one of the greatest sights I've seen. Hannah was skiping around and singing to the animals. She even stepped in animal waste and laughed! Usually when her clothes or shoes get dirty she starts to cry like its the end of the world.
We tried getting her on the pony rides but she wouldnt get on, she only wanted to pet them if mommmy was petting them. But we kept going back to pet and see the horses and ponys. I have to say I think the ponies and horses were Hannahs favorite part of going to the pumpkin farm.
I'm glad we had the oppertunity to go when it was warm and get to spend time laughing. Its not often with busy lives that we can stop and "smell the roses" so to speak, and i have to say that i love stopping to smell the roses with Hannah as she is the light of my darkness.
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