So I've seen alot of conserversy latly about whether or not to get your children/yourself vaccinated. Some people think autism or epilepsy or even certain disablilities are caused by vaccines. I've also heard people say that the government use vaccines to spread the diseases around to keep people "regulated". I'm not sure if any of that is true or not.
I've also had this discussion with several different doctors that range from a family practioner to an ob/gyn doctor. They are are pretty much sticking to the same story. Every one should get vaccinated with the what the CDC suggests.
The doctors are saying that it helps keep our immune systems protected from diseases and also helps the spread of these diseases. Research has shown vaccines make some disease outbreak less likely. According to the CDC in 1979 Japan had a rumor spread around that the whopping cough/pertussis vaccine was no longer needed so alot of parents didn't vaccinate their children and there was a huge epidemic.
I guess each parent/ adult needs to do their research and find what they think works best for their family. I for one will have my daughter and all future children vaccinated. If i can help keep my child safe and keep from epidemics happening then I am game.
Sunday, December 18, 2011
Sunday, December 4, 2011
Respect and Politeness
Where did all the respect and politeness go in this world. Yes I was one of the crazy shoppers this weekend. I told my mom I would take my step dad (he has a TBI and dementia) and her adult family home client (who is developmentally disabled) christmas shopping. We went to Shopko and Walmart on saturday.
I haven't in my entire life, other than high school that is, see so many disrespectful and rude people. They were pushing people, cutting them off in lines, swearing. One child who was maybe 7 years old was swearing at his parents. The parents just stood there like nothing was wrong. I couldn't believe my eyes nor my ears!
When I was growing up if my brother or I had talked to my mom or showed anyone disrepect we would be at LEAST grounded. Tv time taken away, video games(as we got older) toys taken away. We grew up knowing how to be respectful of others. Now I can't even take my daughter to Walmart for groceries with out hearing profanity. Of course I'm not a saint either, I do swear but I try not to in the presence of others especially not children.
I am one of the mothers who will say some thing if your cursing in front of my daughter. You wouldn't believe how many kids and ADULTS I've had to scold, and the faces I get for saying something. Its like they have never been told they are using nasty language. It's still appalling hearing profanity used in every day langauge.
Would you be one in the Walmart check out that has to be told how to be respectful, even as an adult?
I haven't in my entire life, other than high school that is, see so many disrespectful and rude people. They were pushing people, cutting them off in lines, swearing. One child who was maybe 7 years old was swearing at his parents. The parents just stood there like nothing was wrong. I couldn't believe my eyes nor my ears!
When I was growing up if my brother or I had talked to my mom or showed anyone disrepect we would be at LEAST grounded. Tv time taken away, video games(as we got older) toys taken away. We grew up knowing how to be respectful of others. Now I can't even take my daughter to Walmart for groceries with out hearing profanity. Of course I'm not a saint either, I do swear but I try not to in the presence of others especially not children.
I am one of the mothers who will say some thing if your cursing in front of my daughter. You wouldn't believe how many kids and ADULTS I've had to scold, and the faces I get for saying something. Its like they have never been told they are using nasty language. It's still appalling hearing profanity used in every day langauge.
Would you be one in the Walmart check out that has to be told how to be respectful, even as an adult?
Sunday, November 27, 2011
Sleep
My love for sleep has been a long loving relationship. It has lasted my whole life! My mom has always told me I could always sleep long periods of time, and would be very hard to get up in the mornings. Before having my daughter I could easily sleep 10+ hours. Now I can't sleep more than 8hours.
My body has this internal clock that tells me, I have to be up in order to feed and dress Hannah. I will only sleep 8 hours even when I'm sick and can't move. Those times I wake up sick I may be in bed but I'm awake. It takes me longer now to recover from being sick than it did when I was younger. I have asked my doctors why that is and all they tell me is that some people need more sleep than others.
I still have a relationship with sleep. As I'm sure every one does. Its just not as loving as it use to be. Now I'm so busy I don't have enough hours in the day to get every thing done, if I sleep even the normal 8 hours.
I have found that I am sleeping less and less but am able to still function on the fewer hours of sleep. My brain still thinks as it did before and I would love to sleep more but thats just not vesible. I hope every thing slows down and I am able to get more sleep in the future. I guess I will just have to wait and see.
My body has this internal clock that tells me, I have to be up in order to feed and dress Hannah. I will only sleep 8 hours even when I'm sick and can't move. Those times I wake up sick I may be in bed but I'm awake. It takes me longer now to recover from being sick than it did when I was younger. I have asked my doctors why that is and all they tell me is that some people need more sleep than others.
I still have a relationship with sleep. As I'm sure every one does. Its just not as loving as it use to be. Now I'm so busy I don't have enough hours in the day to get every thing done, if I sleep even the normal 8 hours.
I have found that I am sleeping less and less but am able to still function on the fewer hours of sleep. My brain still thinks as it did before and I would love to sleep more but thats just not vesible. I hope every thing slows down and I am able to get more sleep in the future. I guess I will just have to wait and see.
Sunday, November 20, 2011
Holiday Season
This is usually one of my favorite times of year! And this year I feel ho hum.Its been a very busy and trying year. I want to get into the spirit of the season but its really hard this year. I have to work both Thanksgiving and Christmas Eve and Christmas Day. I love the smell, the music and all the beatiful decorations.
In years past I have driven around looking at all the decorations and lights. Thats definatly my daughters favorite part, the lights. She always uuuuussss and awwwwws them. It's hard not to smile after hearing her fawn over the lights. Maybe what I have to do is put up decorations and lights to help turn my mood around. I would hate for my mood to rub off on her. Especially when shes so happy. Its also her birthday two days after Christmas and I want her to think that her birthday matters to me!
Another great part of this time of year is my moms homemade candy!! Peanut butter balls, peanut brittle, fudge, and cookies. A couple of times my mom and I have made chocolate covered pepermints.
I hope everyone enjoys the holiday season. I am just hoping my mood can be changed!
In years past I have driven around looking at all the decorations and lights. Thats definatly my daughters favorite part, the lights. She always uuuuussss and awwwwws them. It's hard not to smile after hearing her fawn over the lights. Maybe what I have to do is put up decorations and lights to help turn my mood around. I would hate for my mood to rub off on her. Especially when shes so happy. Its also her birthday two days after Christmas and I want her to think that her birthday matters to me!
Another great part of this time of year is my moms homemade candy!! Peanut butter balls, peanut brittle, fudge, and cookies. A couple of times my mom and I have made chocolate covered pepermints.
I hope everyone enjoys the holiday season. I am just hoping my mood can be changed!
Sunday, November 13, 2011
Mediation: Does it work?
So with having to go to court with my daughters father for custody of my daughter, we have to go to mediation. It is to see if we can settle our disagreements outside of court. I have to ask myself if it truely works? I have never been to mediation but I've heard it can go either way. I am hopeful that it works out the best way possible for Hannah. But I'm at my witts end, to the point where I am writing up a proposal and am going to stick to it.
He can either agree to my terms or off to court we go. I know I shouldn't think that but I am tired of trying to make things work and getting no where. I'm sure every one feels that way at some time and point in their life but I'm no longer taking no for an answer.
I've always been the person to bend over back wards for every one else. And all it got me was walked all over. People like to use and abuse others so easliy and freely that it is sickening. I epsecially empower woman to stop being used and abused by others. I have been there done that and I know its not easy to change or leave. HaHa this went way off what I was trying to ask, but I guess only time will tell if mediation works. I supose it has to work some of the time for the court to make it manditory before going in front of a judge. Although I think Hannahs dad will be less likely to tell me what i want to hear and not follow through. Again time will tell...
He can either agree to my terms or off to court we go. I know I shouldn't think that but I am tired of trying to make things work and getting no where. I'm sure every one feels that way at some time and point in their life but I'm no longer taking no for an answer.
I've always been the person to bend over back wards for every one else. And all it got me was walked all over. People like to use and abuse others so easliy and freely that it is sickening. I epsecially empower woman to stop being used and abused by others. I have been there done that and I know its not easy to change or leave. HaHa this went way off what I was trying to ask, but I guess only time will tell if mediation works. I supose it has to work some of the time for the court to make it manditory before going in front of a judge. Although I think Hannahs dad will be less likely to tell me what i want to hear and not follow through. Again time will tell...
Sunday, November 6, 2011
New Adventures to come!
So my last post was about dead beat parents and child support. This one is about mine and my daughters new adventures! This week I have had a really hard time with being a single parent and getting threw everything by myself.
As the child support problem came up, I have decided to go for full custody of my daughter. I don't think her father is in her life enough to make an informed decision on her life and shouldn't be allowed to make unenformed decisions about Hannahs life.
So with that said, should I get full custody I have made an informed decision that once my schooling is done we are going to move out of the state. To somewhere warmer!!
I'm very excited about it as I hate winter and snow. I wouldn't mind coming back for visits, as I have alot of family here. It will be exciting to not have to worry about winter coats or boots. Shoveling snow in freezing blistery weather does NOT appeal to me at all. Hannah as a young child also doesn't like the cold. She would always make me carry her and would not what so ever touch the snow.
My mom has always been talking about AZ, so I think that may be where we move. My mom has these funky ideas about buying land and building her own energy efficiant house. Using the land to raise cattle and pigs and grow all of her own fruits and veggies. Its a great idea what with the prices of food and the price of engery. The only couple of bills you would have to pay would be the land taxes, (or rent) and to feed the animals, and the septic tank drainage.
I never had a 5 to 10 year plan but I have changed that! I am most definatly set on what I'm going to be doing. Every person needs to stay positive in this negative world!
As the child support problem came up, I have decided to go for full custody of my daughter. I don't think her father is in her life enough to make an informed decision on her life and shouldn't be allowed to make unenformed decisions about Hannahs life.
So with that said, should I get full custody I have made an informed decision that once my schooling is done we are going to move out of the state. To somewhere warmer!!
I'm very excited about it as I hate winter and snow. I wouldn't mind coming back for visits, as I have alot of family here. It will be exciting to not have to worry about winter coats or boots. Shoveling snow in freezing blistery weather does NOT appeal to me at all. Hannah as a young child also doesn't like the cold. She would always make me carry her and would not what so ever touch the snow.
My mom has always been talking about AZ, so I think that may be where we move. My mom has these funky ideas about buying land and building her own energy efficiant house. Using the land to raise cattle and pigs and grow all of her own fruits and veggies. Its a great idea what with the prices of food and the price of engery. The only couple of bills you would have to pay would be the land taxes, (or rent) and to feed the animals, and the septic tank drainage.
I never had a 5 to 10 year plan but I have changed that! I am most definatly set on what I'm going to be doing. Every person needs to stay positive in this negative world!
Sunday, October 30, 2011
Child Support and dead beat parents
By now just about every one should know I'm a single mother. My daughter will be three in December. My daughters father and I had every intention of getting married. We just had to keep putting it off as our bills and Hannah were our first priority. Through out our relationship my ex's true idenity came out. Definatly wasn't someone I wanted to spend my life with or raise my daughter with. I won't go into detail about all that drama.
Because my ex and I weren't married we had to go to child support agency to determine paternity of Hannah and if he should be paying child suport. Well Hannahs dad and I were on good terms, living together and still talking of getting married. So when the child suport agency rep. asked if we wanted shared placement if we split up. Not thinking we would split up we both agreed.
Had I known that moment in time was going to mess with my life now, I would've never agreed to it. Because we have shared placement, child suport says that her father would only have to pay $55 a month. But they aren't going to make him pay at this time.
Even if he were helping take care of her both physcially and monetarily it would still come out to more than $55 a month. What with child care which is $110 all in its self a week, pull ups, food, toilet paper, soap, shampoo, clothes and shoes, rent and utilities, there is no way $55 dollars would cover even a small fraction of it.
In order to get child support changed, I, having limited resouces as it is now has to pay to get the paper work and pay a filing fee. And if i really wanted to make sure it was done right I would have to pay for a lawyer.
I learned they changed child support laws, that in my opinion protects dead beat parents and makes it harder for the parent taking care of the child to take care of the child and make ends meet.
Because my ex and I weren't married we had to go to child support agency to determine paternity of Hannah and if he should be paying child suport. Well Hannahs dad and I were on good terms, living together and still talking of getting married. So when the child suport agency rep. asked if we wanted shared placement if we split up. Not thinking we would split up we both agreed.
Had I known that moment in time was going to mess with my life now, I would've never agreed to it. Because we have shared placement, child suport says that her father would only have to pay $55 a month. But they aren't going to make him pay at this time.
Even if he were helping take care of her both physcially and monetarily it would still come out to more than $55 a month. What with child care which is $110 all in its self a week, pull ups, food, toilet paper, soap, shampoo, clothes and shoes, rent and utilities, there is no way $55 dollars would cover even a small fraction of it.
In order to get child support changed, I, having limited resouces as it is now has to pay to get the paper work and pay a filing fee. And if i really wanted to make sure it was done right I would have to pay for a lawyer.
I learned they changed child support laws, that in my opinion protects dead beat parents and makes it harder for the parent taking care of the child to take care of the child and make ends meet.
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